Do Background Checks

Someone asked, “How do you do this background Checks when you’ve met your partner in school and he/she comes from a different region?”

I see the courtship stage as the serious stage of every relationship. At that stage, all the necessary questions must be asked to clear all doubts.

You should know the family you are marrying from or into. Don’t just be led by your emotions. Do background checks.

No matter who or where your partner is, find out more about him or her. “No one is an island”- Naa @⁨Naa Hams TpLove⁩ . Find out more about them.

1. Ask him or her about the family. Listen with rapt attention and ask questions for clarification.

Where he or she comes from?

If the family is particular about Clans ask of the clan or tribe

Find out any particular illnesses or diseases in the family?

Find out more about his or her parents or foster parents, are they loving people or contentious people?

Find out if the parents are divorced, separated, or Married.

All these have influence on the person you want to marry.

2. Talk to reliable friends, room mates or close relatives if possible. Find out more about him or her from reliable friends, who he/she really is. Her character, what makes him or her happy, what the person doesn’t like, etc.

3. Meet the family. Visit. Let him or her introduce you to the family. When you go, be observant. You can know a lot about people by simply observing.
By their actions and inactions you’ll get to know whether you are welcomed in the home or not. On another visit you can be more open and ask the needed questions. At the relationship nears marriage I believe parents or interested adults will come in to ensure the success of the marriage.

Caution:

Before you take your partner to meet your parents make sure you know much about your partner so you can defend him or her before your parents in the absence of your partner.

A guy took a beautiful lady home, and his mom welcomed the lady so well but when she left, the mom asked his son questions about the lady, he couldn’t say much. As intuitive as mom was, she didn’t agree and the guy went to breakup with the lady without any reason. If the guy had known much about the lady, he could have defended her before the mom and secure the relationship.

Don’t just take anyone home, do your homework well. But if your partner consistently, has refused to take you home but insist on intimacy, please flee.

Let your findings inform your decision! Marriage is a Choice and you choose who to marry. Choose wisely.