In getting over an Ex or a breakup you need to retreat to recover.
Retreat means to withdraw, to change your opinion or position about something because it is no longer serving your advantage.
You have to intentionally stop meeting the person or doing the usual things you used to do like, calling, texting, etc.
Try and change the idea of she still loves me and I still love her. Accept the fact that, the person doesn’t want to be with you.
Find a way to leave the position you once occupied in her life and your mind “her boyfriend / his girlfriend”.
Try as much as possible to step back from doing the usual. “If she tests or calls and says; Nowadays you don’t call me“.
Know that it is a positive sign of withdrawal.
As you keep doing this, all your heightened feelings will be dropping down to normal. This will be the beginning of the recovery process.
Accept the fact that, the person doesn’t want to be with you.
Recover: means getting back to health or your normal state after a hurt. You were lovesick.
Keys to overcoming a breakup
- Pray about it. Ask God to help you back on your feet by His Spirit of the comforter.
- You can cry it out. Yell it out. Scream it out. It’s normal. Weeping is not a sin. One day, Jesus wept. Weep to recover!
- Read your Bible and meditate on scriptures. It will keep your mind occupied and renewed. Read other good books too.
- Listen to godly music. It helps the soul and speeds up your recovery process.
- Talk to supportive people. Find people of faith, counsellor, friend, family, etc. to talk to and encourage you.
- Treat yourself well. Don’t take it personally. Don’t let them make you feel there’s something wrong with you. There is nothing wrong with you. Eat well, dress well, have fun.
- Meet new people. Find new friends. Open up wisely. Travel. Go to a new place. As one wise man here said; “” – K-Ice
Life is a big picture, don’t passport size yourself.