Tips on how to put a stop to sexual immorality

1. Accept that sexual immorality (fornication &adultery) is a sin which God wants us to be completely free from. Some people don’t see anything wrong with premarital sex. Read 1 Thess 4:3
   “For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor..”
2. Find out what triggers the fire. Assess the relationship and yourselves to see what leads you into engaging in the sexual act. Eg: You may realise that being sad or lonely and seeking comfort from your partner is what pushes you to end up in bed. It may be the kind of conversation you engage in (sexually charged or lustful, conversation, the kind of music you listen, the type of dress you wear when you visit, the movie you watch and may entice you into having sex with your boyfriend or girlfriend.
3. Quench the fire. Purpose in your heart you will stop doing the things that can lead you to have sex. Discuss with your partner, you no longer want to have sex with him or her. Let him or her know the need for keeping yourselves for the future. If he or she is a reasonable person he or she will understand.
4. Keep Watch and Pray (Matt 26:41). There is a need to be on your guard against any appearances of evil and pray to strengthen your spirit man to be able to stand the test of time.. Keep a constant and fervent relationship with the Lord. “Watch and pray, lest you enter into temptation. The spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak.” Pray and ask God to make you emotionally strong so you don’t fall again.
5. Find something to do Keep yourself occupied. There is a popular saying that the devil finds work for idle hands. If you are not occupied with anything meaningful, the temptation to fall into sexual sin is very high. When you are emotionally drained or weak, instead of calling your partner; pray, read your Bible, find a book to read, step outside and talk to someone or play games. Emotional stability is something every single person should master. There are some people every little thing they’ll call their boyfriends and girlfriends. They can’t handle their own desires and feelings. No wonder we find ourselves in bed with the wrong people. Master your emotions.
6. Talk to a Counselor, Pastor, or an elderly person you both are comfortable with and confide in. This needs to be done with much discretion as not all counsellors or elderly ones can handle these cases. However, the involvement and advice of a godly counsellor or godly elderly person will keep you on guard. To this person, you both would be accountable to, and you should accept corrections and instructions from him or her.
7. Set boundaries. There is the need to set boundaries such as no kissing, no sleepovers, no long and tight hugs, no holding of hands and others. There are some people, just a mere holding of hands for long can trigger the fire. Set your boundaries based on your strengths and weaknesses but be mindful of the flesh.
8. Breakup. As difficult as this may be for both of you if you have done all you can to stop but it isn’t working or your boyfriend or girlfriend isn’t agreeing to the final option may be to break up. Your salvation and relationship with God are much more important than the pleasures you have. Choose God over all things. After your breakup, work on a constant and fervent relationship with God and the Holy Spirit will equip you to stand strong. At the right time when you are spiritually strong and emotionally matured, your better half (someone who will love, respect, and appreciate you) will show up.

Trust God’s process for your life!!! Honour God with your body and He will meet the desires of your heart.